y eta vaina, dique romance?

A topic that has come up with eerie frequency in the past few days: Romance- and I look forward to your comments!

Men debating the do's and don't of romance and women analyzing each romantic gesture.

My conclusion: it is EASY to romance a woman.

Yep, I said it and I believe it. Listen, any man that watches any good romantic comedy or has female friends can figure out how to romance a woman. It is not hard to send her flowers or a midday email to let a woman know she's in your thoughts. It's not difficult for a man to take a woman out and pay for everything and hold doors and show your good manners.
That's why I look beyond the "easy stuff"- not to say it should not be done!

Its protocol. A man should want to show you that he can go out of his way to make you feel unique. So what exactly is special about it?

What is hard- ladies, is finding a man willing to do the easy protocol stuff and exceeding. What provides to be more difficult, is finding a man that romances a woman because HE WANTS TO, not because it's expected.

I had an interesting conversation with a friend and he commented on my habit to "comment on every nice gesture" a man may have done. And this friend is right. I make it a point to compliment a man for treating me as I'd like. Because that's just it. Women are easily romanced because there are more men that no longer go through the inconvenience of romancing a woman with the easy protocol stuff at minimum. So few, that when a woman encounters the man that actually does, it seems out of this world!

Not I. Look, I appreciate the romantic gestures, which is why I show my appreciation, it also encourages the person to do it again, because it was appreciated and very much liked. But please understand that the easy protocol stuff is the basic minimum. For example, I went on a date last night and the guy asked me "What's one thing a guy never did for you that you wish he did?" And my response wasn't as direct as he expected.

A man should do what he thinks would make me happy consistently throughout a relationship because he wants to therefore making him happy. If it will not be done consistently, then why do it? And for the record, it does not have to be in materialistic form. In other words, don't bring me red roses because you know I like red roses once, instead, bring me red roses as many times as possible throughout our union because that's what YOU want to do. Doing something romantic for me should make the man happy, I don't want to be selfish in my happiness.

And what about romancing a man??! HTF does that even happen?! Men need to be romanced too you know! Clearly its a different technique, but I've given men flowers before. How about them apples?! lol.

IDK, I'm kind of annoyed at women that boast about simple shit, like "He returns my textes in a timely fashion." LOL (I'm guilty of that) and its sad that those are the types of compliments we are giving men romancing us. I'm tired of men getting away with simple romancing BS like paying for dinner. How is that romantic?! LOL. I wish I heard more women say, every Friday, for the last (enter length of relationship here), there is a bouquet of roses on my desk at work or at my front door, never missed one Friday. Now...thats romance!

Ladies, we need to have higher standards in the romance department and men need to be a little bit more creative...and vice verse. Men challenge yourself to go above and beyond, women romance your men!

I'm pretty sure that's why my family thinks I'm gay. Because I refuse to settle and just bring along any dude that buys me a rose from the single rose seller on 34th street, which I've done before. Yes sometimes you like a man so much that his minor attempts seem great, but then later on you are miserable and angry that "he's not trying anymore" when it was clear he never tried to begin with. And yes, I've rushed into things at times, but men seem to forget that the screening process doesn't end at me me liking you. Keep impressing me because I'm a hot commodity, I can make you better. I hope this post isn't misinterpreted. I am a hopeful romantic, I do love roses and cheasy walks in the park. I just ask for initiative and work. Samethings I put in.

Standards scare people, I do not have a laundry list and there is room for compromise, but I will not settle. When you settle you end up miserable- take it from me.

*Mistakes have been made, taking a new approach people!